Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Happy 40th birthday to me!

Can you believe it? I am 40! Well what can I say? It is just great! I can now tell you that life definitely gets better with age. Not only have I started colouring my hair and have gotten over the small trauma of that, but I've also thrown out that metaphorical laundry that crowded the dirty basket of my life. Yes, with age, your tolerance for rubbish diminishes and the results are that you only make room for what's good. Let's face it, who wants to put up with rubbish? The younger me did, but no more and I am free.

I have also freed myself from that horrible invention called the scales. You know, that horrible thing on your bathroom floor? Well no more! I've taken the power back and will never step on one again.  The scale stopped telling me how much I weighed, but how I should feel about myself. No thanks! I know how my clothes feel and they can be my indicator - besides, I love clothes, so it really is win-win.

The common theme here is that, which I reiterated throughout the year - no drama . Whether it be with people or with your inner voice that beats you up for every ingested calorie. It also suggest that with the 'no drama' policy, the way we face problems changes too. We don't create problems, we solve them. What a revelation that was! Eventually, unintentionally, you impart that wisdom to your children and, as they get older, they spot trouble before you do, and for that I will always be grateful. Go with your instincts, they are a true gift.

This year has also taught me the ridiculousness of 'never'. It doesn't exist. I truly believe that. On two occasions I was adamant about my convictions and I was proven absolutely wrong within days. Learn it and apply it. It's a great tool to have.

We live in a world full of different types of people. They will show you who they are, and when they do, don't for a second think they will change. They won't. In fact, they will become more of themselves as they get older. What I do know is that, for the most part, people are good, they will show you this when you need them the most. It took my youngest to have her tonsils removed for me to really see that and it was a heart warming lesson. Just remember, if you hear that someone is kicking you down when you are most in need, it's ok to walk away. You can always forgive, but don't forget.

The most incredible thing I discovered, is that you have to seize every opportunity in front of you and things will definitely fall into place and what you never imagined could happen, will happen. Again, never say never.

Although a lot has happened this year, the one thing I do know is that by sharing my journey to 40 with you, it has made me take the time to sit here at my computer, make sense of what was going on in my life at any given time, write it for you and reap the benefits. What a lovely gift from all of you! 

Happy 40th birthday to me!

Sunday, January 22, 2012

So what's new?

It might be a bit late to wish you a Happy New Year, but not too late to wonder if it has been happy? This year, so far has been a very happy one for me. Instead of the self loathing that comes with having over stuffed yourself over the holidays or the temporary damage you might have done to your liver though the cover consuption of gorgeous wines, my New Year was about getting down to business.

The infamous dress is hanging in my wardrobe and fits very nicely. Thank God! It looks even better on now, than it did the day I bought it. I started my detox on the 3rd of January and have made great progress. The fat jeans I bought all those months ago are loose, I'm down a notch on my belt and I haven't had an ounce of alcohol in three weeks,which means I'm sleeping well and my skin is benefiting. 

The venue is booked, the invitations are written and are ready to be sent out, which means there will be a party and I can't wait. It seems as though the dreaded 40 has turned into 'it can't come soon enough'. I guess I have a lot to look forward to, as all those who surround me are making sure that I enjoy every minute of it and it feels great!

A lot of  you have asked what I will do when my blog has run it's course. Well watch this space! I have been approached to Blog / Agony Aunt on a upcoming website for women. I know that you will all love the site and I hope that you will follow me over to it. Before that though, I will see you all back here on Valentine's Day 2012 the day of my 40th birthday!